A Deliberate Change of Mind
How to change negative thinking
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An affirmation is a small positive statement which you repeat to yourself, to
reinforce or change thinking patterns on a sub-conscious level. It can also
be a statement, a chant, a written list or a song.
Our minds generate a constant stream of sub-conscious chatter. Although
we are often unaware of the substance of that chatter, it is frequently a
stream of negative thoughts. Affirmations are a conscious decision to
implant quality thoughts and to repeat those thoughts to such a degree
that they become a belief.
Becoming aware of your negative or sabotaging thoughts is the first step.
You then need to stop those thoughts as soon as you recognize them.
Most importantly, you need to replace those thoughts with positive
Affirmations are always stated in the positive.
Replace, I am broke and in debt, with “All of my needs are met and all my
desires are fulfilled.”
Affirmations should be stated in the present tense.
Replace I am going to... Is coming… and, Will be…
With “I now have…’ ‘I am…’ ‘This is…”
Imagine a negative thought as a ball coming straight at you. An affirmation
is like the bat you use to smack that ball right out of the park.
It is best to work with one set of affirmations at a time. Decide your most
important issue and focus on that until you have the outcome you desire. It’
s too easy to become distracted and scattered if you take on too much too
soon. Set yourself a goal for a week. Get creative and write down a few
ideas that feel right for you about that issue. You will also find that one
affirmation will inspire another and throughout the week you can continue
to add to them.
Here are a few examples of affirmations for success:
I am worthy. I am successful, prosperous and happy.
I am filled with quality ideas and the ability to bring them into action.
I love my work and it rewards me financially.
The more successful I am, the more the world will benefit.
These are very basic affirmations but they can be very effective and
powerful. An interesting thing about affirmations is that they will often
release some very profound insights or make you more aware of habits.
You may also find that when you are doing your success affirmations, you
start to walk taller, dress with more care, act in a more self-confident
manner and become more enthusiastic and creative.
You will find yourself thinking about new money-making ideas and
somehow start pursuing new or better ways of doing things.
You may also start thinking ‘outside the box’ or you may take up new
New opportunities and people will start showing up in your life. You may
become aware that you have become ‘lucky’
Affirmations are like saving coins in a moneybox. They don’t seem like
much at the time, but they add up quickly. Just one dollar a day added to a
moneybox may seem insignificant, however, if you save one dollar every
day from the time you start working until you retire, you will accumulate
enough money to retire very wealthy.
With constant repetition small things become very powerful forces.
One drop of water on a rock will not affect the rock, but water dripping
constantly on a rock will wear that rock away.
I am not suggesting that affirmations take ages to work. Usually they work
instantly, usually they work powerfully and often they work magically.
When affirmations are repeated over time, they will prove to be immensely
An affirmation will eliminate an old belief and create a new belief. Life-long
habits can be broken down and replaced with new habits. All behavioural
habits begin as habits of thought.
When a thought is repeated often enough, it will become a belief.
What you conceive and believe - You will achieve.
Remember that your thoughts create emotions - emotions create actions -
and your actions re-create your thoughts.
You really do need to be the ‘Thought Police’ to understand what opposing
influences are undermining your success. Your opposing influences are
the thoughts and beliefs you maintain from your established habits. There
are three essential requirements to achieve what you want in life:
1. You need to be clear about what you want.
2. You need to consistently state and imagine what you want and
3. You need to stop thoughts, words and images about what you don’t
Now, go back and read that again and keep reading it until you get it. I
know it sounds too simple and I’m sure you said, “Yeah, I know that.” But
There is knowing something, but then, there is ‘Knowing
If you are programming yourself for prosperity, love, happiness or success,
then you must at this point, believe that you are lacking in prosperity, love,
happiness or success. No one ever obsesses about what they already
have. We all obsess over what we are lacking. Let’s face it, we only desire
what we want in our lives, not what we already have.
If you lack money now, then you have a scarcity or poverty belief already in
place. The very fact that you are broke is proof that your belief system is
presently running on a scarcity consciousness.
Going back to the three essentials, you may decide that you are already
clear about what you want.
You may also be working on the second law and using affirmations.
Now, consider the third law and jot down a few notes. What can you
discover about your habitual thinking that may be working on an opposing
Do you think wealth has something to do with greed or selfishness?
Do you feel guilty when you have more than someone else?
Do you think wealth is not spiritual?
Do you think rich people are not happy people?
Will people only want you for your money?
There are many common misconceptions about wealth that can sabotage
your ability to achieve your goals.
Consider the following examples:
I’d rather be healthy than wealthy. (Do you think that one rules out the
I fear that I will be robbed or that I may attract bad luck in other areas.
Wealthy people are dishonest or have done unethical things to create their
Rich people are lonely and don’t trust people.
Focusing on or believing in these misconceptions will sabotage your ability
to achieve prosperity.
Stop thinking about your debt - you need to think about what you want, not
what you need or lack. Focusing on what you need is based on the bare
minimum requirements – you really need to lift the bar and focus on what
Instead of thinking, “They don’t deserve that”, start thinking, “If they can
achieve that, then I can too.” Feelings of jealousy or resentment towards
others will negatively impact your ability to achieve your goals. Everyone
deserves prosperity. It’s ridiculous for anyone to expect abundance for
themselves, but judge others as unworthy. Prosperity is not about money –
it is about the exchange of goods and services.
When it comes to prosperity, it is well worth reminding yourself that the
more others prosper the greater the flow.
Stop thinking that someone else will have less, if you have more. Start
thinking, ‘The more I have - the more I can help others.’
These examples are intended to help you to discover what your inner most
thoughts may be. You might find it beneficial to carry a notebook for a
week or so and write down your negative thoughts. This will help you to
recognize the day-to-day thoughts that are negatively impacting on your
Your success depends on the quality of your thoughts, the beliefs you
choose and your ability to eliminate those thoughts or beliefs that oppose
Affirmations are a conscious decision to implant quality thoughts and to
repeat those thoughts to such a degree that they become a belief.
Emile Coue is famous for the affirmation, “Every day, in every way, I am
getting better and better”.
Affirmations are usually short, positive and stated in the present tense. A
few examples are:
I am healthy, wealthy and wise.
Prosperity comes to me easily and effortlessly.
I am lucky, I am a magnet to good fortune.
Life on Hold
Affirmations can be used with deep breathing whenever your life is
subjected to the ‘Pause Button.’ Lines in banks, traffic jams, supermarket
queues, telephone call centres. Nothing seems to cause as much
unnecessary stress as the pause button. Imagine the impact that we could
have on road rage if we could convince everyone to do affirmations
whenever they are caught in traffic. Compare the difference when you
apply affirmations next time you’re put on pause.
Attraction and Resistance
Another interesting benefit is that you will notice a sense of attraction or
resistance. An attraction is ‘When your Heart Sings.’ If you are affirming
success and you get a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement then
your affirmation is attracted to what is right for you. If this is the case, then
you will very definitely get what you desire. Your instincts are saying, ‘Yes,
bring it on now!’ and you are ready to receive it and run with it.
Any resistance is your inner wisdom saying, NO. If your affirmation makes
you feel uncomfortable or silly, then you are off course. You are being
instructed to dig a little deeper. This happens because you are not clear
about your goal. You have given your desire the wrong name and you are
chasing a false desire. An example of this may be that you are working on
money, but every time you state your affirmation you feel uncomfortable,
bored, distracted or indifferent.
This is because money is not your real desire. The uncomfortable feeling is
telling you to find out what money means to you. Money may represent
freedom from fear. If this comes up, then all you need to do is change your
affirmation to one that releases fear. Money may represent a sense of self-
esteem or power. Your affirmation should be changed to one that
increases your feelings of self-worth.
Rituals and Lucky Charms
A ritual or a lucky charm will work because you make it so. I do not believe
for a minute that a rabbit’s foot has magical power or lighting candles or
incense will drive away evil influences. (In fact, I don’t believe in evil
influences or bad luck, at all.)
That said, I still think that rituals and lucky charms can be very powerful
and effective and can greatly enhance affirmations. If you associate a
specific ritual or object with a specific thought, you will sub-consciously
reinforce that thought each time you see the object or perform a ritual.
When people pray, they will often close their eyes and hold their hands
together. In meditation you will often be instructed to hold your thumb and
third finger in a circle. In either case, the ritual of placing your hands in a
particular position evokes a specific association. If you hold your hands as
instructed every time you meditate or pray, you will find that it becomes a
habit. As a habit, you will find you automatically go into a deep state of
relaxation every time you hold your hands in this manner.
I used to run meditation courses and used Mike Rowland’s ‘Fairy Ring’ as
my background music. Years later I went into a record shop and Fairy Ring
was playing on their stereo. I instantly went into a deep relaxed state. That’
s how strong association is.
When I worked at the Weight Control Centre, I used to advise my clients to
associate red stoplights with isometric exercises. The idea is that every
time you stop at a red light you squeeze the cheeks of your bum together,
hold it tight and then relax. You do that until the light turns green. At the
next red light, you tighten and relax your stomach muscles. At the third set
of lights you stretch your neck and shoulders. That was almost 20 years
ago and if you ever pull up next to me at a red light you won’t need to
wonder what I am doing. I sub-consciously associate red traffic lights with
Most people have some kind of ritual or lucky charms. They are an
excellent idea and work wonders with affirmations. But don’t believe in the
power of the item. The power is your power; the ritual or the item is your
prompt. If you lose your lucky charm you will not attract bad luck.
Anything can be a ritual or a lucky charm. A lucky charm can be anything
(an ornament, piece of jewellery or a crystal). The best charms are things
that are easily obtained or daily rituals that are already in place. A ritual
can be your daily exercise programme. If you swim laps of a pool you can
use each lap with an affirmation, thereby associating swimming with that
affirmation. Lighting a candle or an incense, (Smell can be very powerful)
may be used for affirmation associations. I have already mentioned red
stoplights, showers, eating and music.
Deep breathing, body postures, a certain chair or your own bed can also
create associations with affirmations.
Writing down an affirmation or writing an affirmation a hundred times can
also enhance the affirmation’s power. The repetition locks it in. You are
also gaining the advantage of including more senses. Seeing the
affirmation, reading it and the act of writing it, all enhance and expand the
process. Carry it with you and read it and add to it throughout the day.
Place it near your bed or desk or anywhere that you may see it throughout
the day. If you work with a computer you can turn it into a screen saver.
Here are some ideas on rituals and lucky charms to enhance your
Lucky coins. I once bought some Feng Shui coins which I used to hold and
Good fortune and financial abundance comes freely and easily
Every cent I spend comes back to me threefold or better
I am a magnetic force, attracting money and success.
By creating an association with the coins, I now automatically think those
thoughts every time I open my purse and see coins.
Saying Grace or having a food ritual is excellent for weight loss or health
affirmations. Before you eat you may affirm:
This food heals, this food builds and repairs, and this food creates vibrant
My body wisdom leads me to desire and choose the perfect foods for
Long, deep, slow breaths. I’ve discussed breathing on other pages so you
know how powerful I think this is.
This is the one time when I do use a negative statement with affirmations
and it really does work well. This technique can be used for many purposes
to release any negative influence and relace it with a positive influence. It is
excellent for food or smoking addictions.
On the exhalation I state:
I release fear, worry and insecurity and breathe in health, wealth and
On the exhalation:
I now release all desire for lifeless foods and let go of my weight issues.
Then on the inhalation:
I only desire foods that bring health, vitality and energy into my body - I am
light and beautiful.
On the exhalation:
I release all desire to smoke. Cigarettes have lost their power and do not
Then on the inhalation:
Oxygen is more satisfying and enjoyable than cigarettes. The more I
breathe, the less I desire cigarettes. I do not smoke now, as a choice, and
it is easy and effortless.
When my son was very young, he would sometimes get into an irritating
mood that I referred to as ‘Cruising for a Bruising.’ You other mothers know
what I mean. They just get out of whack and challenge you to ‘have a go.’
In all honesty, I think I have been there myself, it’s just that sense of
wanting to annoy someone because you’re out of sorts.
I once said to him that he must be “Covered in Neggies”. (Mothers come up
with this kind of thing.) I explained to him that when he was out in the air he
must have walked though some negativity and it hadn’t fallen off yet. I ran a
bath and explained that neggies melted in water. I couldn’t believe the
difference when he got out of the bath. The mood was totally gone.
Because this worked so well, I would often say, “Better have a bath or
shower and get those neggies off.” Without realizing it, I had created a very
simple ritual for releasing a bad mood. Funnily enough, I sometimes catch
myself in the shower imagining neggies dissolving and floating away. I’m
sure I probably think this all of the time but am not usually aware of it.
Singing, Rhyming or Chanting
Have you ever had a song stuck in your head and you just can’t get it out?
If you sing an affirmation to something simple like ‘Twinkle, twinkle little
star,’ you will find yourself humming the tune throughout the day as your
sub-conscious will be repeating your affirmation.
The best time to do affirmations is just before you go to sleep. The
thoughts you have just prior to falling asleep are most likely the thoughts
that will play out in your dreams. This is fabulous, and greatly enhances
the power of your affirmations. Imagine how often we go to sleep worrying
about things. It's no wonder that so many people suffer from insomnia,
have nightmares or wake up feeling tired.
It’s really easy to make up your own affirmations, but I’ll include a few extras
below to give you an idea of how simple they can be:
I am healthy, wealthy and happy
I attract love, luck and laughter
I am a magnetic force - attracting only good into my life
Money comes easily and effortlessly
I am in tune with the wisdom of the Universe
I am wise, insightful and intuitive
I am beauty, I am love, I am all-powerful
My great capacity to love fills the Universe, returns to me and replenishes
My eyes project healing light, today I will give healing to all I meet.
Creative ideas and talents are now working through me, my full potential is
I am filled with love, light and healing energies
I radiate love, light and healing energies
I attract love, light and healing energies
I am love, light and healing energies
I am safe, secure and protected
I have all the tools, techniques, talents and assistance for all that I need
All that is good comes easily and effortlessly to me now.
Copyright Sonya Green
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