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Where we go wrong is in the interpretation. What seems to be safe is not
necessarily in our best interest. If I don't try for promotion, I won't be disappointed
by rejection - but I'll have to continue at the same old job that is not fulfilling any
more. So the fear of rejection is more powerful in this case than our desire for a
better job. We pick the apparently safe position of being effect. Sadly, we have
chosen misery rather than challenge and delight!
You can reclaim your power if you can recognize that you are the cause of your
life. That you have made choices and continue to live by them, and therefore you
have the power to choose again and create the world you want. To do this you
need to become conscious of your fears and the way they influence your choices.
Fear is a strong and painful emotion so we try to suppress it from our
consciousness, but it continues to act subconsciously, limiting our choices within the
safe boundaries that do not trigger the fear.
How can I accept a fear and transcend it? I think a good way is to realize that fear
is a two-sided coin. The other side of the coin is love, the positive dynamic in our
life for truth and freedom. Love is about acceptance, fear is about resistance. Our
fears can help us to become aware of the expression of love that may be missing in
our life - because our choices are being hidden alongside our fears under the
floorboards of our consciousness.
So begin to accept your fears instead of hiding them away, recognize that each fear
is based on a judgment that just isn't necessary, and delight as the flower of your
true self begins to bloom.
Most people don't realize they can change the way they are... "I am the way I am."
But a live guided by love is possible for each of us, and is infinitely more fulfilling
than a life ruled by fear.
The future of the human race - and on a personal level, your hope for happiness -
depends on transcending the male/female archetypes, to be balanced with intellect
and empathy, and to be able to express both ideas and feelings. And above all, to
perceive that the true nature of love is beyond possessiveness - it is unconditional
acceptance, like a mother's love for her baby. Then it naturally follows we will have
a life, family, business and society without conflict and injustice.
==========================
Peter Shepherd is a transpersonal psychologist living in France. He runs the
personal development website Tools for Transformation, which includes many
resources for transformation of body, mind and spirit - including his full book
'Transforming the Mind' available freely online and for PDF download, and a
popular free weekly newsletter. For details of these and much more please click
here... http://www.trans4mind.com/
www.reinventingmyself.com/peter_shepherd2.html
necessarily in our best interest. If I don't try for promotion, I won't be disappointed
by rejection - but I'll have to continue at the same old job that is not fulfilling any
more. So the fear of rejection is more powerful in this case than our desire for a
better job. We pick the apparently safe position of being effect. Sadly, we have
chosen misery rather than challenge and delight!
You can reclaim your power if you can recognize that you are the cause of your
life. That you have made choices and continue to live by them, and therefore you
have the power to choose again and create the world you want. To do this you
need to become conscious of your fears and the way they influence your choices.
Fear is a strong and painful emotion so we try to suppress it from our
consciousness, but it continues to act subconsciously, limiting our choices within the
safe boundaries that do not trigger the fear.
How can I accept a fear and transcend it? I think a good way is to realize that fear
is a two-sided coin. The other side of the coin is love, the positive dynamic in our
life for truth and freedom. Love is about acceptance, fear is about resistance. Our
fears can help us to become aware of the expression of love that may be missing in
our life - because our choices are being hidden alongside our fears under the
floorboards of our consciousness.
So begin to accept your fears instead of hiding them away, recognize that each fear
is based on a judgment that just isn't necessary, and delight as the flower of your
true self begins to bloom.
Most people don't realize they can change the way they are... "I am the way I am."
But a live guided by love is possible for each of us, and is infinitely more fulfilling
than a life ruled by fear.
The future of the human race - and on a personal level, your hope for happiness -
depends on transcending the male/female archetypes, to be balanced with intellect
and empathy, and to be able to express both ideas and feelings. And above all, to
perceive that the true nature of love is beyond possessiveness - it is unconditional
acceptance, like a mother's love for her baby. Then it naturally follows we will have
a life, family, business and society without conflict and injustice.
==========================
Peter Shepherd is a transpersonal psychologist living in France. He runs the
personal development website Tools for Transformation, which includes many
resources for transformation of body, mind and spirit - including his full book
'Transforming the Mind' available freely online and for PDF download, and a
popular free weekly newsletter. For details of these and much more please click
here... http://www.trans4mind.com/
www.reinventingmyself.com/peter_shepherd2.html
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Empower Yourself!
Empowerment means being at cause: that is, we determine the direction of our
lives. We are responsible for our existence. We are in control. When we are
responsible for something, it is we who have to explain why it is, as it is. After
all, we have exercised our power to change and create - and to begin and to
end
So we are the person responsible for what is good and what is bad in our life
situation. Here lies the crux. With responsibility comes the possibility of blame
and then shame. If all goes well, we are praised - but if not, we are the one
who may be blamed. It is then "our fault" and we may feel shame. As our
failures and wrong-doings increase, so does our pain and guilt and shame. Is it
surprising that many have relinquished their power, given up control and
responsibility, in many aspects of their lives - to hide safely at effect rather than
express themselves at cause? In truth, you are the creator of your own life.
Yet you can pretend to be at effect: to be disempowered.
If we yield our power of choice we no longer control our own life. Someone
else controls it for us. We no longer have the power to change our situation
for the better - but also we no longer can be blamed. We sometimes invest a
lot in being at effect in this way and don't give it up easily. It can assuage our
guilt and hide our true failures. It's a safe solution to our problems.
Unfortunately it's not the best solution. By being a victim, we try to escape the
burden of responsibility but then have to accept the pain of losing our
freedom. We refuse to choose, and have others choose for us. We refuse to
control and allow others to control us. We do not accept our power, and give
it to others. We do such a good job at this that we believe we have no real
say in our lives. Our pain is their responsibility. It is their fault. Yet by doing
this we deprive ourselves of so much pleasure and fun in life.
To reverse this situation it is necessary to recognize we are responsible for our
choices that bring about our present and future conditions - how we are
already causing our situation. Then we are empowered and we can choose
again!
Why did we give our power away? The fact is that we never did give it away.
We are always making choices. Even choosing not to choose. We always
choose what we interpret to be the best option that we have available. We are
always at cause.
When we choose to (pretend to) be effect, it is because the problems of
responsibility appear greater than all the trouble that comes from being at
effect. For example, being beaten by a drunken husband seems preferable to
the alternatives of remedying his behavior or starting a new independent life.
There must be something of value that the person is finding in the current
arrangement of being at effect. Maybe having somebody tell you what to do
provides safety; being on drugs provides peace; having somebody scream at
you every day helps you to feel something; being with an alcoholic ensures
uncritical company. We really wouldn't be in that sort of situation unless the
apparent advantages outweighed the drawbacks.
Also, the idea of being responsible for our actions, our feelings and our beliefs
may be uncomfortable. Our interpretation of past negative experiences may
maintain it is dangerous to recover our own ability to choose. Most likely we
have tried things in the past that failed and led to us feeling upset, so now we
refuse to take that kind of responsibility, to express our true selves.
Empowerment means being at cause: that is, we determine the direction of our
lives. We are responsible for our existence. We are in control. When we are
responsible for something, it is we who have to explain why it is, as it is. After
all, we have exercised our power to change and create - and to begin and to
end
So we are the person responsible for what is good and what is bad in our life
situation. Here lies the crux. With responsibility comes the possibility of blame
and then shame. If all goes well, we are praised - but if not, we are the one
who may be blamed. It is then "our fault" and we may feel shame. As our
failures and wrong-doings increase, so does our pain and guilt and shame. Is it
surprising that many have relinquished their power, given up control and
responsibility, in many aspects of their lives - to hide safely at effect rather than
express themselves at cause? In truth, you are the creator of your own life.
Yet you can pretend to be at effect: to be disempowered.
If we yield our power of choice we no longer control our own life. Someone
else controls it for us. We no longer have the power to change our situation
for the better - but also we no longer can be blamed. We sometimes invest a
lot in being at effect in this way and don't give it up easily. It can assuage our
guilt and hide our true failures. It's a safe solution to our problems.
Unfortunately it's not the best solution. By being a victim, we try to escape the
burden of responsibility but then have to accept the pain of losing our
freedom. We refuse to choose, and have others choose for us. We refuse to
control and allow others to control us. We do not accept our power, and give
it to others. We do such a good job at this that we believe we have no real
say in our lives. Our pain is their responsibility. It is their fault. Yet by doing
this we deprive ourselves of so much pleasure and fun in life.
To reverse this situation it is necessary to recognize we are responsible for our
choices that bring about our present and future conditions - how we are
already causing our situation. Then we are empowered and we can choose
again!
Why did we give our power away? The fact is that we never did give it away.
We are always making choices. Even choosing not to choose. We always
choose what we interpret to be the best option that we have available. We are
always at cause.
When we choose to (pretend to) be effect, it is because the problems of
responsibility appear greater than all the trouble that comes from being at
effect. For example, being beaten by a drunken husband seems preferable to
the alternatives of remedying his behavior or starting a new independent life.
There must be something of value that the person is finding in the current
arrangement of being at effect. Maybe having somebody tell you what to do
provides safety; being on drugs provides peace; having somebody scream at
you every day helps you to feel something; being with an alcoholic ensures
uncritical company. We really wouldn't be in that sort of situation unless the
apparent advantages outweighed the drawbacks.
Also, the idea of being responsible for our actions, our feelings and our beliefs
may be uncomfortable. Our interpretation of past negative experiences may
maintain it is dangerous to recover our own ability to choose. Most likely we
have tried things in the past that failed and led to us feeling upset, so now we
refuse to take that kind of responsibility, to express our true selves.
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