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Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
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White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
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Reinventing myself personal growth program
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
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Reinventing myself personal growth program
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
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Reinventing myself personal growth program
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
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Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
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Reinventing myself personal growth program
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
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Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
Songs to make your heart sing
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This practice takes the emphasis away from the moment of orgasm and
channels pleasure throughout the body. Instead of the ‘Big Bang Finale’,
you will be experiencing waves and waves of pleasure throughout the entire
process. It’s like having a solid ball of orgasm and letting it all dissolve into
your blood stream, so that every cell within you becomes orgasmic. This is
the sense of ecstasy many desire and attain. Most people fall more deeply
in love with their partner, and really do feel they have merged with them. I
have never tried this with someone that I have not deeply loved, and my
guess is that it might not be possible. It requires deep and genuine love to
make the initial connection, as well as a great deal of trust and respect.
When that depth of love is there to begin with, then this practice will add to
it, expand it, and take it into a realm that is as close to ecstasy or spirituality
as we can go. Many people who have experienced this will feel that they
have merged their souls, and experienced a love so deep that it is not
uncommon to cry or almost pass out from its beauty. This kind of love
cannot be faked. When sharing another person’s energy in this way, it can
only ever be genuine.

Of course, slow, gentle, seductive foreplay and prolonging sex by building
desire in waves, will bring about an amazing excitement, enjoyment and a
deeper, stronger orgasm. We all need and deserve satisfying sex and we
are all capable of achieving it. Ideally, we all want to be deeply in love and
connected to someone, but that is not always where we are. If you have a
lover then you have the opportunity to improve the quality of the
relationship and you owe it to yourself and your lover to do so. Being lazy,
indifferent, or just not taking responsibility, is a crime against yourself as
well as your partner.

Too often, women expect men to do all the work and act like a stiff and
unresponsive workbench. Women need to take responsibility for their own
sexual pleasure and become active participants. We need to get over our
self-consciousness, or this stupid belief that a male ego is so fragile that we
dare not suggest that anything is wrong. Men are eager to please and are
willing to exert an enormous amount of energy to do so. I think it’s about
time we responded in ways that said, “Yes, I like that” or “No, that’s not quite
it”.

Faking it
Women who fake orgasms need to re-think the whole idea. Faking an
orgasm will result in your lover thinking he did everything right and take
your orgasm as approval. You are sending a message to continue doing
what he’s doing – well, if it’s not getting you off, then why are you
encouraging it? Too often woman won’t say that they are being rushed, won’
t verbalise their needs, or won’t give any response to indicate pleasure, but
will instead use ‘withholding sex’ as retaliation. A man does not understand
that “I’ve got a headache” might mean, “I want cunnalingus”. If you can’t
give a straight verbal message, then at least give a physical response.
Lying in the ‘corpse position’, is a little bit too subtle, don’t you think? Too
often, relationships revolve around her avoiding it, and him begging for it,
and both people are left feeling resentment towards each other. Even when
the relationship has deteriorated to this level, she still won’t say why she
doesn’t want sex anymore. Usually, it comes out in a vicious argument, and
he is left feeling totally humiliated or devastated when he finds out she has
been staring at the ceiling for the past five years, while he has been
banging away. All that, “Yes, yes, yes baby” didn’t mean I’m coming at all, it
actually meant get it over with and leave me alone.

Throughout this page, I have stressed the importance of being ‘Tuned-In’ to
your lover and it may have seemed that I was speaking to men only – this is
not so. Men have unfairly been accused of being less sensitive and less
emotional than women. It is often assumed that men do not need to be
touched, nurtured, or re-assured and this is not the case. Men are definitely
emotional and sensitive beings, and good sex requires expressions of
emotion and sensual pleasure by both genders. Men’s bodies may feel big
and strong compared to ours, but that doesn’t mean that penises need to
be yanked off their base. Men love to be touched and male skin is as
responsive to touch as female skin. Men also need to feel desirable and
attractive, and most importantly it’s time women stopped acting like they are
doing a man a favour by having sex with him. Good sex requires give and
take, and good sex for both genders includes mental, emotional and
physical exchange.

On occasion, a man may cum a little early and he will quite often be left
feeling like he has let you down. It is pretty decent if he has the energy to
get you off manually, but sometimes he may just be too spent. Rather than
gaze at him accusingly, or make some sarcastic remarks, or just lie there
feeling let down, take yourself in hand and bring yourself home. For
goodness sake, the man has seen you naked, entered your body and
tasted your vaginal fluids by now, surely he is not going to be shocked by
your ability to touch yourself.

Masturbation
Some people do not have a partner and do not wish to have casual sex, but
still have sexual desires and needs. Some of us have been so deeply
conditioned against masturbation, that we still feel shame or guilt about it. If
you really do think masturbation is wrong or sinful, then you really must
have a very candid and logical discussion with yourself. Whose belief
system are you operating under? If more people (particularly women) would
masturbate more often, then we would all know more about our sexuality
and we would all be sexually satisfied. Yes, you do need to be sexually
satisfied; sexual satisfaction makes you healthier, reduces tension in the
body, and enhances well-being on all levels. It also feels very very nice. I’m
sure you probably think that you have no hang-ups about masturbation, but
let me ask you this, “What kind of masturbator are you?” Could it be, that
you, yourself, treat yourself indifferently, or more precisely, are you a wham-
bam-thank-you-ma’am lover with yourself? We are all very quick to complain
about insensitive lovers, and yet when it comes to pleasing ourselves, we
go straight to the “quickie”. Masturbation does not have any rules, and you
really can have your own way with yourself. Perhaps you may have never
considered that you can tease and touch and seduce yourself. Maybe you
have never explored touching anything other than your genitals in a mad
rush to get yourself over and done with. Many women do not look at their
genitals from one year to the next. It doesn’t take too much effort to hold a
hand mirror and you might quite enjoy watching yourself touching yourself
and responding. Do you taste or smell yourself, or have you even
considered loving yourself with your heart and mind while you are
masturbating. Sexual satisfaction and pleasure is available to all of us, but
too often we are too busy, too disconnected, or too self-conscious to fully
experience and enjoy it.

I do not offer this information as any kind of sex manual, nor do I present
myself as any kind of sex expert. I am hoping that I may have inspired you to
think through your own sexuality and free yourself of erroneous and limiting
beliefs about your body and sexuality. This is not a manual; it is simply a
presentation of some ideas or insights to encourage the reader to fully
explore sex as an expression of love. I wish you the experience of sex as a
sacred ritual, with many deeply loving and fulfilling moments.

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