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I know exactly what you mean. It seems to be happening more and more and it is so wonderful! I'm not
sure what it is, but my take on it is this:
First of all it is energy. When you are of light energy it seems to expand. It doesn't surprise me that you are
a dancer as one of the best ways to lift energy (apart from meditation) is body movement and deep
breathing. Ill bet anything that this guy is either into some form of spiritual practice, he's an athlete or singer
or dancer (breather/body mover) or he is in love. All these things raise the vibration of energy. When you
get close to someone on the same frequency as yourself, or of a very high light energy you can feel a
resonance. I also notice a strong telepathy seems to occur and a slow motion timelessness. You probably
also noticed you felt energized for a long time after? Some have wondered if it is a recognition of a past life
love. Its easy to interpret it as meeting a soul mate because it feels like that. I tend not to go too much into
that theory as I have had it happen with woman, old men and children as well as a lot of people who are
spiritually charismatic. Often I sense it at a concert or the theatre and feel a similar connection to the singer.
I think singing, dancing, meditation, etc balances and energizes the chakras and this puts out the energy. If
you want to experiment with it then dance with the focus on your breath and moving the pelvic area.
Interesting also to note Elvis worked on the breath through singing (also the internal vibration) and of
course the famous pelvic thrust. No wonder he was so mesmerizing - he was moving kundalini energy and
probably didn't even know it.


Many years ago a friend had to write a letter to his son for his high school graduation. My friend really
struggled and could only get to "I'm proud of you son" He also made some reference to some of his sons
achievements. I noted he was only commenting on things his boy had done - nothing about who his boy
was and nothing from his own heart.
We sat for a while and between the two of us we re-wrote the letter. Around this time my own son had
just left home so I started to think about the things I may have said or perhaps should have said but didn't.
I decided to re-write the letter to suit our relationship and I posted it to him (By the way, he never
mentioned it to me)
As parent we always think that our kids know how much we love them and how proud we are of them.
Any therapist will tell you that that is not always the case.
This month my nephew left home and there has been much discussion within the family about how happy
we are for him, but also how sad we are to lose him. This boy has always been our pride and joy and
sometimes we even have to remind ourselves not to act like we worship him. We adore him to bits.
My sister has bought up much of what I went through as she wonders if she could or should have done
more. (She couldn't)
This morning I found the letter and once again re-worded it. I am posting it on the site and although many
won't relate to it at all I think some will. It is only a template really but I thought if anyone wanted to
re-word it to suit their purpose then it might be worth doing.

www.reinventingmyself.com/myson.html


Dear Sonya
I wrote this last year as a welcome message for folks who were new members of an Air Force Parents site
that I am a co-admin at.

Even though it's a welcome message....... it's ALSO about the goodbye and letting go of a child.
Parents ALL over the world experience the same things when it come to the goodbye of an adult child.  

The message....'Letter to My Son' was just beautiful. !!!!
With your permission, I would very much like to post it on the support site and I would also post a link
back to your web site.

When an Air Force parent says goodbye to their son or daughter, off they go to 'basic military training'.   
In the United States Air Force that initial 6 weeks of training takes place at one airbase in Texas.
The trainees are allowed very limited phone calls home. Maybe 4 -6 the entire time.  So our
communication is via 'snail mail'.
In those letters we attempt to uplift them from a distance.  The letters give us a chance to share our feelings
and convey our pride to them.
At the support group I always encourage parents to make certain everyone writes letters.   Usually the
Mom is in charge of letter writing, but I also encourage Dads to take the time and write too.
One kid told his Mom, 'well I pitched all the letters except the one from Dad, because
it's stuff I had
never heard from him before'.

HOW very powerful a written letter can be. !!!!!!!

THANK YOU again for sharing....I am sending this to you, in hopes that you will forward it
on to your sister.  :)))) Along with a HUG from a Mom who knows what she is going through.

Warm Regards,
Deb
***

"Welcome to the family"

You've said your last goodbye and your child heads off for basic military training.   They are now out of
site.

For maybe 18 years, or even a bit longer in the case of some kids who enter basic military training later in
life, you've been preparing them for this point.

What parent has not heard a 2 year old exclaim
"I DO ---  I DO" !!!!

They come into this world with a fierce determination to do things THEIR WAY !!!!!

Our job has been to love, teach, guide and protect and then to LET GO.

On the day of their birth, they either popped out or were lifted out of your body and then SNIP  they were
LET GO.

You might be a Stepparent of this AF child, but you have offered them love, teaching, guidance and
protection. Your letting go, can be just as emotional as a bio parent.

Wasn't it just yesterday you pushed them off on that two wheeled bike and then LET GO.

Most likely at no time in your child's life has your roll changed so quickly and so drastically, as the day you
say goodbye.

Another thing that mucks up a parent's emotions at this time is this:

Memories of your AF child's entire life ~FLASH~ before your mind
You start to question, "Was I a good enough parent" ?
"Was I too strict. Was I not strict enough. Should I have done this,  Should I have done that?

This is not a conscious choice to question or recall all of this, it just SHOWS UP!
That triggers emotions and memories from your own life and your own childhood, your parents and your
life choices!

Swirl all that above thinking around, and unless you've served in the military yourself, you are clueless as to
what to expect will be happening in your child's life in the coming weeks.

Then smart you searches around the world wide web and you find The Air Force Mom and Dad site.

It's just like walking in a warm cozy cabin from a bitter cold freezing night A large stone fireplace is
crackling in the background.
New friends pat you on the back, and some hug you as you make your way around the room.  Tears
stream down your cheeks as you come to understand that ALL these folks have been
in your shoes, and they get what you are going through.

Right now, you might be the newbie, but in a very short time, another parent will sign on this site and the
torch will be passed.
You'll welcome them with open arms and share your stories helping to ease their stress saying "Welcome
to the family".
xo xo
Deb in Ohio (Aug 2005)
Proud Air Force Mom of Vinny
10-17-2002 - The day my son left for the Air Force

***

HI Sonya,

I wrote this for my son when he was in tech school. Tech school is where they go after basic training. That
was early on in 2003.  In November of 200 my son, then 19,  called me to say that he had volunteered for
a mission to Iraq.   His Air Force job is not one that would have put him in a position to even go to Iraq,
so I was supportive, yet quite shocked.

This poem.......   My OWN WORDS comforted me more than I can ever tell you during the time he was
deployed there. Hopefully this is another one that will 'comfort' your sis.


A Message in the *Twinkle*
Child of mine
Out of the reach of this mama's hugs.
Look up to the stars at night.
I've beamed a message of
love there.

On the nights when the stars
are hidden behind clouds
I'm still reminded of you.
You are hidden from my view,
yet I trust in the beating of your heart.
We shared heartbeats for nine months
and became forever bonded.

The twinkle of the stars
are a comfort to me from
God above.
Child, see the stars and feel my hugs.
Love Always,
Mama Debra Estep 2-28-03

Air Force Mom Rebecca Proud AF Mom of Amanda made this beautiful graphic for me
http://img139.imageshack.us/img139/4958/giftfordeb29fv.gif

***
Air Force Mom's and Dad's Support Group

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An online place for parents with sons or daughters in the United States Air Force,
For sons or daughters married to someone in the Air Force to meet, talk about our kids, offer support,
share our pride in their accomplishments and get to know each other.

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Reinventing myself personal growth program
Description of Articles
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
responses to articles
Songs to make your heart sing
Contact Sonya Green
personal growth Links
Articles by other authors
Sonya Green new articles
Reinventing myself personal growth program
Description of Articles
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
responses to articles
Songs to make your heart sing
Contact Sonya Green
personal growth Links
Articles by other authors
Sonya Green new articles
Reinventing myself personal growth program
Description of Articles
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
responses to articles
Songs to make your heart sing
Contact Sonya Green
personal growth Links
Articles by other authors
Sonya Green new articles
Reinventing myself personal growth program
Description of Articles
Guided Meditation C.D.s
Now available in Paperback
Creative Visualization guided meditation techniques
How to Meditate, what is a healing meditation like
Weight Loss and  Emotional eating
Fear of abandonment
Stress reduction
Vital Energy oxygen therapy and breathing
Soul Mates and self love
arthritis chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
Self Esteem
heartbreak
White Light and healing energies
Spitituality without religeon
Happiness
what is love
Sex - What the women are saying now.
psychic Cords
Money Prosperity Wealth
Parents. Who are these aliens?
Incest
Living in the shadows
Affirmations and Mind Power
Words as Medicine
Absent Healing and Chakra Balance
Better Questions Better Solutions
Are we thinking our own thoughts?
Beauty Myth
bipolar
Inspirational quotes
Im right you're wrong
Letter to My son
responses to articles
Songs to make your heart sing
Contact Sonya Green
personal growth Links
Articles by other authors
Sonya Green new articles
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My husband has had deep-seated abandonment issues his whole life. We
found a lot of valuable info on your web site that seems to completely
describe his feelings. The problem is that we think his feelings come from
being born 3 months early. He spent the first couple of months in an
incubator, they didn't know what they do now about touch, bonding,  etc.
Have you heard anything about premature babies and how would you
resolve abandonment coming from that.  His life did not have abandonment in
it other than that.....   But his memories are exactly like those described by
these people who suffered abandonment later. They can remember what
caused their feelings and deal with them. My husband cannot remember
anything - he just has always felt this way.  Do you know what can help him?

I certainly don't have all the answers myself, but I do try to be honest with
myself and about myself. I really do think that this is half the battle - seeing
things for what they really are, rather than masking them. We are so
conditioned to hide our insecurities or more to the point - hide who we really
are. How can we ever love and accept ourselves, each other and the life
process, if we can't bear to even meet with ourselves?
The challenge for all of us is not in trying to change the past, but to see and
understand it's influence. Anything that we interpret as "I don't matter, I'm not
good enough or I am not lovable," is just wrong information. If we can realize
that we have been operating from wrong information, then we can make a
conscious choice at any time to change it.
My guess is that the ultimate abandonment is our disconnection from
spirituality. We sense a deep longing (like a hidden memory) to be
connected, supported and in communication with, "The Source of Life".
We have an inner knowledge that life should be healthy, abundant, joyful,
loving and creative. Our natural state should be peaceful and secure. So
much happens in life to pull us away from this that we end up feeling like we
are grieving for it.
The premature birth issue is a really interesting, "Point of Reference". There
has been a lot of thought given to this topic. Especially in relation to the
violence of the birth process. Leonard Orr (of re-birthing fame) wrote much
on the subject and may be of interest to you.
My view is that no matter what happened or will happen in life there is only
one time-frame which is crucial and that is Now. Fear is the real enemy. Not
past fear and not future fear and most definitely not imaginary fear. And of
course, Love is the only antidote! To consciously, deliberately and actively
work with these two energies is the challenge to all of us.
Seeing ourselves as mind, body and spirit becomes essential as we strive to
maintain a balance of health, vitality and stability. Physical health is often
taken for granted or neglected. Sometimes to the point of abuse. Many
people are not even conscious of their own body and others are so far
removed that they actually dislike their body.
Your husband is at that magical age in which many questions get asked and
many consequences are revealed. Physical, emotional and spiritual neglect
now comes to the surface and choices need to be made.
Eating well, breathing and body movement is now a priority. Physical neglect
will influence the emotions and will show up as discontent, depression,
lethargy and anxiety just to name a few. I am mentioning this here as I think it
is the easiest place to start in turning your husbands 'Flatness' around. Quite
often our emotions are not about issues, but more so about diet, stress,
hormonal imbalance and fatigue.
Meditation and affirmations can be the easiest and most effective tools for
changing subconscious beliefs. It's a daily practice and should really be a way
of life. In the end these two techniques are how we sloth off what we need to
reject and reprogram our own truth and wisdom.
This affirmation may be worth trying for a few weeks. (It can also be
meditated into) Try it just before you fall asleep and again on waking:

Today I reclaim and recreate my life.
I am safe, secure, supported and assisted.
I connect myself with the highest possible source of
health, wealth, happiness and wisdom.
I am love, light and healing energy.
Today I am my true self.
Today I live my true potential and possibilities.


I've bookmarked your site and plan on re-reading it until it sinks in! Thank
you so much.
The reason I found it was because I just came from encountering an
enlightening moment.  I was in the grocery store, not talking to anyone, just
trying to get in and get out. As I passed a gentleman, I felt something in my
body. I am a dancer and trust my body. I instantly felt like I had met a
kindred soul, someone whom I would feel comfortable with. I began to feel
centered, calm, and energy  was quietly swirling in my body. If I had seen
him again I planned on saying HI- something I am always too shy to do.
Yeah , he was cute. But this was something else. I just wanted to be in his
presence. Saw him at the checkout, and felt that energy again, he was with a
woman. I didn't want to confuse them. It was  just so amazing, yet not sexual
like you might think.
What happened?
How can I  generate this energy myself?
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