I sat in the car as the bus pulled up across the road. I watched and waited,
secretly hoping he had changed his mind and let me down again as I was accustomed to him doing. I felt sick and resentful as I asked myself for the
hundredth time, “Why do I still allow him to pull me into his nightmares?” Some sense of loyalty which I knew was ill placed, a belief that friend’s look after each other through thick or thin, or just the commitment to long ago promises that I
couldn’t bear to renege on. I don’t know. Maybe I just have some deep psychological need to help the helpless or an inability to let myself feel like the bad guy. The last time I had seen him, I had screamed at him, “Never Again”
and I meant it then as much as I had meant it all the other times.
I hadn’t seen him for two or three years, although every few months I would get a late night call and a new, all so familiar drama or crisis of some kind, would be relayed in a slurred or desperate voice. He would cry and plead with me to take him back or to at least help him. The promises would play out and repeat like a scratched record. I had heard it all so many times – he could have just shut
up as I could have done all of the talking for him.
Four nights earlier he had called again. I knew it was the end of the line for him.
He had just come out of the hospital, and for the third time, he had been dead on arrival. His day had come and he knew it. Either he straightened out now or he died. Everything was finally closing in on him. He had debts and some potential jail time hot on his heels.
I hardly recognized the person walking towards me. I’m sure the look on my face let him know how repulsed I was to see him. He was a skeleton in loose orange skin, his eyes were yellow, his hair had been bleached, but done badly so it was also yellow and his teeth were rotten.
I knew the minute I first met Stephen that my life was about to change. We moved in together within weeks of meeting and were inseparable for the next four years. Those four years were filled with love and laughter. He was my best friend, my lover, teacher, brother, parent, and child. I have never before or since
known someone as well as I knew him.
We were young and healthy and filled with possibility and we brought out the best in each other. He was charming and worldly, so charismatic that people from all walks of life wanted to befriend him. Women of all ages became easily infatuated with him, yet he was also a man’s man. He had it all: looks,
intelligence, sensitivity, warmth, and humor. He was dynamic, capable,
adventurous and talented. Everyone expected him to be some kind of Superstar.
We began arguing more and he had longer and more frequent bouts of depression and listlessness. He was unmotivated about most things and had given up his job as the dope was more fun and made him more money. L.S.D. and speed were just beginning to make their way into our circle, and it was easy for him to expand the business and give himself that extra zing that had been missing.
There was no point in trying to speak with him when he was out of it. When he was straight, he seemed paranoid, restless and morose. His personality had changed dramatically and he became sneaky and secretive. Some days he would stay in bed, often he would not leave the house for weeks. He started telling me stories about how lonely and unloved he had felt for most of his life and kept obsessing about painful events from his past. His self-confidence and self-esteem had plummeted to a frightening level. Then the suicide talk started.
When he was up, he was extremely up, and he took everyone up with him. He began a number of successful businesses and was something of an entrepreneur in his own right. Even when he worked for others, he always outshone his colleagues and impressed his employer right from the onset. There were many times he was able to employ friends and many times he made small fortunes. It seemed to me, that no matter how far down he got, he was always able to pick himself up and shine again. What confused me the most about this though, was that it was when he was doing well that he seemed to have the most trouble. I often accused him of being more afraid of success than failure.
He would make heaps of money and dazzle everyone. However, it always ended with him sabotaging himself and giving the money away in some sort of reckless way. He would then retreat, hit the booze or the dope and go into weeks of despair. I once pointed out that most people have an emotional swing about six inches either side of center, but he seemed to swing up and around the bar until he flung himself off and landed in a heap.
I finally left after a very ugly and an all too regular rage of jealousy. His depression and despair had become some kind of paranoia of which I had somehow become the center. He became so overwhelmingly possessive that he began to abuse anyone whom he felt might steal me away from him.
I moved across the country, became a different person and led a completely different life. Over the years, he would show up from time to time. Although I kept the distance between us, he always managed to create some kind of chaos and then he would be gone again. He had become a heroin addict and his life was out of his control most of the time. He had become an exceptional liar and a habitual con-man. I had heard that he had done a few short stints in jail and probably as many stints in hospitals. Every now and again, he would clean up and get it together for a while, but he always managed to come undone.
He had broken my heart, disappointed me, embarrassed and frightened me. I will say in his defense though, that he did not steal from me and only rarely did he attempt to lie to me. I mention this because heroin addicts can usually only exist by lying and stealing. I’m not sure if it is pure desperation or just the strong belief that what they are saying is true at the time they are saying it, but they are phenomenal liars. Stealing is usually an essential way of life for a junkie, whether it’s burglary, shoplifting, fraud or robbery.
I had seen Stephen in physical pain as well as almost insane with panic in his desperation for heroin, and yet, I always knew that he would not rip me off financially nor would he hurt me physically. A couple of times he did try to lie to me, but he could never do it while looking at me. In fact, he was so ashamed that
he would drop his head and speak so quietly that I would ask him to speak up and look at me, but he never did – he just walked away.
So here I was all these years later, looking at a yellow skeleton with bad teeth. He was smiling and looking a little timid and, I suppose, secretly hoping that I would hug him and welcome him. He looked like a creature from some unknown source, but with an ever so slight resemblance to someone, I once knew. I experienced a range of reactions and emotions as I stared blankly at him. The one thing I
remember most about that moment, was the voice inside my head that stated, ‘Stephen is dead and this is his murderer.”
He stayed a few months and those months were difficult and uncomfortable for me and I am sure they were hell for him. He did straighten out and he did it all on his own. It turned out that he had hepatitis and had also become epileptic since I had last seen him. Physically he was a mess; although not yet forty, he had a heart condition and had suffered a couple of minor strokes. We didn’t talk much as I could barely stand to look at him. He spent most of his time reading self-help books, eating well, sleeping long hours and walking.
One thing that I did find quite peculiar was that when we did speak, he seemed to be relating and acting in the same way as he had when he was in his twenties. It was like fifteen years had not passed. His style of dress, music, jargon, interests, and self-image were all caught up in a time warp. I mentioned this to a friend of mine who was a psychologist. He said that it could be that events which occurred under the influence of the drugs or alcohol may not have been stored in his memory. It appeared that his most recent recollections were those things which had occurred prior to the drug taking. That made things pretty bizarre for me, as he was remembering me as his girlfriend from yesterday, and I was seeing him as a dead man walking, who occasionally reminded me of my old friend Stephen.
Even though he had straightened out and found himself a job, new friends and a place to live, I didn’t really believe that it would last. After years and years of pleading with him to get straight, the hardest thing for me to accept was that a drug-free life for an ex-junkie is a sad and lonely anti-climax. He was living in an old man’s body. Without drugs, he was in constant pain, discomfort and anxiety. He had a criminal record and no real skills, so his job options were limited, boring and low paying. Intellectually and emotionally he was immature and therefore most comfortable with people many years younger. They generally found him difficult to relate to. In the back of my mind, I began to wonder if perhaps he may have done better to live hard and die young after all.
When he decided to pack up and go back East I was relieved. He promised he would stay clean, but we both knew he wouldn’t. I still had that voice in my head telling me that Stephen was already gone and whoever this replica was would soon be gone as well. I could no longer convince myself that if and when that happened, it might not just be a better option or at least a kinder solution. I had been so sure that kicking the addiction was the most important part of it all that it never occurred to me that life thereafter would be painful, joyless and hopeless for him.
I also heard that when he overdosed, the people who were with him managed to get him to the hospital, but due to fear of the legal consequences, they simply dropped him off outside and sped off. We are not sure how long he had been there, but he was found unconscious in the car park and a day or so later they pronounced him “brain dead”. His father’s final decision for his son was to give his permission to turn off the life support equipment.
Over the years, I have crossed paths with drug addicts and alcoholics, but I certainly haven’t involved myself with them in any real way. I had well and truly decided that no one wins this game. I promised myself that I would not trust a junkie nor would I try to help one.
What readers say:
I love personal development books and have read most of the best sellers. I don’t consider myself to be a lost soul or someone in need of psychological help. My interest has always been about having the best life possible. My goals are simple – to be the best, have the best and do my best. I know that how I think or what I think is the key. I know it, practice it and preach it myself. We hear this all the time and yet we so easily forget it in our day to day routines.
This is not just another positive thinking book nor is it a rehash of all the other psychobabble. It is refreshing, light and practical. It is for real people, living in the real world. I am sure that anyone can open this book at any page and find something which hits a cord. I would recommend this book to anyone capable of thought or feeling. It gave me goosebumps! – Janet Ryan
The depth of knowledge and spectrum of information delivered in this book is both astounding and gratifying. Reinventing Myself covers all the ‘now’ issues which are delivered through the author’s own experience and through the telling of other people’s stories. I particularly resonated with the ‘painfully honest but inspirational interview’ with a person who had experienced Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder and Addiction – and found their way back. Similarly with the chapter on Creative Visualisation and Parents – Who are these aliens? Whilst the author, Sonya Green has been sharing her insightful knowledge about human potential, self-esteem and personal growth for many years, the purpose of this book is to help us to challenge our beliefs and learn to truly value ourselves. Highly recommended. – The Art of Healing Magazine
I read this book with great delight in the fact that someone has finally put into words what I have suspected for a long time. I have pondered the big questions for more than thirty years but you have taken this complex subject matter and simply “Nailed it”. This is a book to re-read and a book to pass along. (Except mine is full of highlights and notes to me!). Brilliant!!! – Phil
“As I was reading your story on reinventing yourself, I kept asking myself: How can someone on the other side of the world have felt the EXACT same way as I did.” – Hilda
I desire and require – health, wealth, and happiness
More than I need comes freely, easily and joyfully to me now.
Every cent I spend comes back to me threefold
Money is infinite and I am in the flow of giving and receiving
The more I accept abundance the more good I can do for others.
Wealth is like air, endless and effortless
Today I create my life by my own design. I create abundance in all things
I now have more than I need and more than I desire
Wealth is just a reflection of how big I can dream
I am worthy and deserving of life’s rich blessings
I am magnetically aligned with good fortune and miracles
Money gives me the freedom to do my best and be my best
My talents, abilities and creative ideas enrich the lives of others
The more I give out the more I receive. This is a Universal fact.
Money is only a measure of value. Today my value in all that I am and all
that I do increases and expands
Because I love myself, I love my work and I love my life – I excel in all that
Great ideas create great action and result in great reward
I am ready, willing and able to accept my highest blessings
Resisting abundance is about resisting life. Today I release old, erroneous
patterns and claim total freedom
Today’s goals are about creating good luck and happy outcomes
My purpose, my passion, and my potential are all supported by prosperity.
The world is filled with gifts. The most fun I will have today will be in giving
Money flows easily to me as I work smarter not harder
My wealth is just the Universe’s way of saying thank you
I am successful because I know what to ask for and how to accept it
People love to support me, help me and inspire me because this is the
the energy I give out
Wealth gives me the opportunity to do real and valuable things in the world
Every day I find a new way to make money multiply.
Because I value money – my money increases in value.
There is no such thing as too much money or too much love. When we are
full – we simply overflow.
Today is the day I stop thinking, talking or operating from a place of need.
Today I tap into the flow of desire.
Making money is so much fun
For you and me and everyone.
Cause and effect are one of the successful models for achieving the goals. This model states that you have to identify and create the causes that will produce the effects and goals you desire.
Almost everyone misunderstands this model because people don’t know what a “cause” really means. The first assumption is that the cause is a series of actions that lead to achieving the effect. For example, if your goal is to make pancakes, then the assumption will be that the preparation steps will be the cause.
However, this series of preparation steps are not the real cause. They can be even considered as effects. The real cause is actually the decision to make pancakes. The decision probably is subconscious, but still is a decision. Without making the decision, the pancakes would never manifest. The decision to make pancakes actually caused a whole action series and the manifestation is ready to eat pancakes.
God and Love are probably the two words that have more meanings or at least more diverse reactions or perceptions than any other. Most of us have been brought up with strong beliefs about both and in most cases, we have learned that God and Love are the same or at least closely related.
For many people, God has been explained within the realms of religion and although there are many different religions, most of them have the same basic belief: that God is a superhuman being or source, which created the universe and everything within it. God symbolizes, embodies and possesses divine powers. God has control over nature, human experience, life, and death.
Of course, this is an over-simplification but for now, if we can just think of God as the creator and controlling a force of the Universe and consider that God and Love are one and the same, then we may all accept some common ground.
To imagine God, we may have to put aside religious beliefs for just a moment and focus on what we feel deep inside. Feeling or sensing God might be what we consider to be the experience of spirituality. Spirituality is also one of those words with many explanations but again if we keep it simple, we might think of it as experiencing God as a source within us.
Some may feel this as a higher state of consciousness, a sense of renewal, inner peace, healing or inspiration. Perhaps, a state of euphoria or a sense of self, as a soul.
I’m trying to avoid religious dogma here and simply find some common ground. I do not wish to try and explain or preach any particular doctrine or theosophy; I simply wish to use the name, God. Who or what God is has been argued, studied, pondered and discussed throughout the ages.
God has many names and just as many meanings. Usually, when God is mentioned we automatically fall into whatever faith we were raised with and start discussing religion.
Many people find it difficult or almost impossible to separate religion and God. Again, I will try and simplify this and suggest that religion is man’s knowledge, study or analysis of who and what God is. Religion almost always dictates an allegiance to a church or denomination. One joins a church much like a member of any organization and tries to live in accordance with the codes of conduct and philosophy of that organization. Very few people explore all religions and yet most will argue that only theirs is right. Most of the time we simply adopt the belief system of our family, culture or location.
For many people, their religion is their pathway to spirituality. For others, it is a venue or simply a place for like-minded people to gather and explore that particular avenue. In effect, most churches represent themselves as agents of God.
Some people experience a deep sense of spirituality and are led to religion and others are bought up within religion and are led to spirituality.
The reason I am being so careful here is that I want to explore spirituality and love as a natural state of being. I am not talking about religion but I want to use the word God in the context of exploring life as a spiritual experience.
Some people are lucky enough to live each day as a spiritual being within a physical reality. These people are filled with joy and a sense of serenity. Life makes sense at this level and there is an acknowledgement of gratitude. These people do not fear death and have a very deep sense of security. They feel connected to their environment and the people around them. There is a healing force within them and this energy often radiate from them. There is a wisdom that they can access and a purpose in which they live. They do not experience God as a separate entity. God is love and God is light and God is within them. For many people, spirituality comes and goes in a somewhat elusive way. Some people may acknowledge that there have been a few occasions in which they think they may have experienced it and of course there are always those who simply deny its existence.
Some people will outright deny that there is a God and can become quite hostile at any insistence that there could be a God. Usually, their arguments resort back to the bible and the church. (When I use the words bible or church I do mean any or all doctrines or practices).
Many people today are very angry with God. This is why I have been so careful with my choice of words and why I have needed to separate God from religion. So many people have been hurt, disillusioned, persecuted, confused, punished and emotionally or psychologically damaged in the name of God. God has been blamed, unfairly, for the sins of the church. People have shut down and denied their spirituality due to a distorted acceptance that spirituality and religion are the same. They are not.
Some people just can’t get comfortable even hearing the word God. More and more we hear God referred to as the source, infinite intelligence, the universe, higher wisdom or consciousness. We may pray to Mother Mary, spirit guides, guardian angels or any one of many saints, but we just can’t pray to God.
Atheists, or at least anyone claiming to believe there is no God, will sometimes find themselves calling out to someone or anyone, to help them in times of great distress. An atheist will quite often call out to a deceased parent if his child is in a critical condition. We may say we do not believe in God or any spiritual power but I’m sure everyone, at some point, has called out instinctively, to someone or something, at a time of personal crisis. What is this impulse or instinct?
What is it that has us reaching out and touching a sick child? Could it be that we innately know that we have healing capabilities within us? When we will a fortunate outcome to a problem are we really using some psychic or spiritual powers, or are we instinctively communicating with God? Have you ever found the words ‘no, no, please don’t let this be so’, playing through your mind? Who were you speaking to? Has anyone ever sat at a funeral and not wondered…
I believe that within us all there is a belief that we can call out for help and be heard. We do will things to happen or try to will things to stop. By our own intuition, we place our hands on pain, illness, and disease. Could it be that we remember we are healers? Can we experience love without
pondering some supernatural essence within it?
There is such a spiritual hunger, such a longing and such a deep sense of disconnection and insecurity within so many people. I refer to this as the ‘Soul Crying’. The spiritual-self denied all expression. Spirituality is not an aspect of self; it is the essence of self.
I’m not presenting these ideas in any way to belittle organized religion, I simply wish to encourage those people who are angry at God, to take an objective look at spirituality without getting caught up in past disappointments or confusing doctrines. To consider that spirituality exists without religious association.
Our physical life here, within this present reality, involves a balance of mind, body, and spirit. You cannot experience yourself as a whole if you deny your spirit. Although we refer to these three aspects, they are not three separate aspects. You are and your life is a composite of all three
Usually, people will tell you that happiness and health are the two things they want the most. When you ask a parent, what they want for their children they will most certainly say, “As long as your children are happy and healthy, I don’t care for anything else.”
Very often, people want wealth, success and love, with the only goal to be happy and believe that these things will make them happy. Sometimes, people want only health above all else, but only when they are ill and not feeling well. Otherwise, when people are young and fit, without illness, they rarely think about their health.
Stop and think about what makes you happy. Most of us think that happiness is some random act that should happen normally without actively pursuing it.
Happiness has been a really fascinating process for me. I’m constantly seeking it and playing with it. I sit and focus on it until finally “Bring it on”.
Sometimes it takes some concentration and imagination to practice and focus on my ability to simply decide to be happy. And you have to remind yourself very often. You’d be surprised and delighted to not waiting for something to happen so you can be happy, but attain happiness no matter the situation or event.
Music to make your heart sing. Happy positive and inspirational lyrics
Sometimes you just have to sing along and sometimes you just have to get yourself up and dance. The list below has been compiled for the soul purpose of ‘feeling good.’ If you have a favorite song that never fails to uplift you or a song with plenty of attitudes or just a really groovy beat then please email me and I’ll add it to the list. (Please write Groovy song on subject line)
Roll it – Paul McCartney – Wings
Oh Darlin’ –Beatles
We will rock you – Queen
We are the champions – Queen
Wind beneath my wings – Bette Midler or Colleen Hewitt
You light up my Life- Debbie Boone
Take my breath away – Berlin
You don’t treat me no good no more – Sonia Dada
I will survive – Gloria Gaynor
Mocking bird – Carly Simon and James Taylor
Reflections of my life – Marmalade
Get out of my car – Ted Mulray
Don’t worry Be happy – Jimmy Cliff or Bobby McFerrin
Up against the wall red neck mother – Jerry Jeff Walker
You’re no good – Carly Simon
You look wonderful tonight – Eric Clapton
You are so beautiful – Joe Cocker
I can see clearly now – Jimmy Cliff or Johnny Nash or Bob Marley
Rockin’ back inside my heart – Julie Cruise
Calling all angels – K.D. Lang and Jane Silberry
Don’t look back – Tosh and Jagger
Give me one good reason – Tracy Chapman
I’m in the spotlight – Marc Hunter
Looking for an echo – Ol 55
What a wonderful world – Lois Armstrong
New York New York – Frank Sinatra
Kissing a fool- George Michael
Paradise – John Farnham
Kingston town – Harry Belafonte
In my life – The Beatles
Tear us apart – INXS
Who let the dogs out – Baha men
Banana boat song – Harry Belafonte
Everybody must get stoned – Bob Dylan
Beloved one – Chris James
Magnificent – Chris James
We are Angels – Chris James
Wonderful world beautiful people – Jimmy Cliff
Up where we belong – Joe Cocker and Jennifer Warne
Sea of love- The Honeydrippers
Every time you walk in the room – Jackie de Shannon
Girls just want to have fun – Cyndi Lauper
Down under – Men at work
The Rose – Bette Midler
Another brick in the Wall – Pink Floyd
Brass in pocket – Pretenders
Emotional rescue – Rolling Stones
Dancing in the dark – Bruce Springstein
Born in the USA – Bruce Springstein
Simply the best – Tina Turner
Like a rolling stone – Bob Dylan
Respect – Aretha Franklin
Let it be – The Beatles
No woman no cry – Bob Marley
Bridge over troubled water – Simon and Garfunkel
Imagine – John Lennon
Feed the world –Band-aid concert
Let it be – The Beatles
Long tall glasses – Leo Sayer
If you think I’m sexy – Rod Stewart
Sailing – Rod Stewart
Moondance – Van Morrison
Maybe Im amazed – Paul McCartney
Run around sue – Dion
Mustang sally – Wilson Pickett or the Commitments
Do right woman do right man – Aretha Franklin or the Commitments
Amazing grace – (anyone and everyone)
You’ve got a friend – Carol King
Boys light up – Australian Crawl
Greatest love of all – Whitney Houston
Wild thing You make my heart sing – The Troggs
Peace in the valley – Elvis
These boots are made for walking – Nancy Sinatra
That’s life – Frank Sinatra
My Way – Frank Sinatra
Wave on a wave – Pat Green …
Man, I feel like a Woman – Shania Twain
Any man of mine – ”
You win my love- ”
That don’t impress me much- ”
Margaritaville -Jimmy Buffet or Alan Jackson (with Jimmy Buffet)
Passionate Kisses – Mary Chapin-Carpenter
I’ve got friends in low places – Garth Brooks
Shameless – ”
Unanswered – ”
Prayer; The Dance
All my exes live in Texas 🙂 – George Strait
Still within the sound of my voice – Linda Ronstadt
Playin’ with the queen of hearts – Juice Newton
Help is on the way – Little River Band
Brown Eyed Girl – Van Morrison
Wonderful tonight – Eric Clapton
Jack & Diane – John Cougar Mellencamp
Spirit in the Sky – Norman Greenbaum
The Stroll – The Diamonds
Do you believe in magic? – The Lovin’ Spoonful
Good Lovin’- The Rascals
You send me – Sam Cook .
I hope you dance – Lee Ann Womack
The road goes on forever – Joe Eli
Tide is High – Blondie
Surfer Girl – Beach Boys
You Don’t own me – Sandy Posie
I had the time of my life (dirty dancing) – Bill Medley and Jennifer Warne
Groovin – The young Rascals
If you are going to correct a certain visual impairment, you should take advantage of LASIK eye surgery. Then you can ask a quite natural question – how much does LASIK cost? Do not worry. It is quite affordable.
This type of eye surgery is performed by a laser. It is used for the shape-changing of the cornea in order to refine visual acuity.
Why should you choose LASIK? Lasik stands out among the other surgical corrective procedures due to its benefits. It provides reduced pain along with quicker recovery. So, LASIK is a good alternative to contact lenses or eyeglasses for many patients.
You may have met advertisements for the LASIK surgery as $300 per eye. They are not worth trusting. Unfortunately, some providers use unscrupulous tactics. But it does not mean you cannot take an advantage of a price reduction for traditional LASIK procedures. Or you could just stick to the discounted contact lenses, which could do the job in a cheaper price tag.
So, how much does LASIK surgery cost? This type of eye surgery varies in cost, and there are lots of reasons for it. Be ready to pay from $2,000 to $3,000 per eye. The exact price depends on your diagnosis and eye condition.
At first, when you come to the center, you will be carefully examined by the surgeon. As usual, this medical consultation is free of charge. Then you will be explained all LASIK pricing principles. Feel free to ask all the necessary questions to reveal any hidden costs.
The cheapest LASIK procedure is corneal flap creation with a mechanical microkeratome. It is the oldest standard LASIK technology. Though visual outcomes are usually good with it, it has a greater risk of some complications. The most widespread of them are corneal flap problems and night time glare. You could even wear Freshlook Colorblends to enhance your eyes to any occasion.
Besides using a laser for corneal flap reshaping eliminates the risk of many complications. It is also more psychologically comfortable for patients.
While considering how much does LASIK eye surgery cost, remember the following. Many LASIK centers suggest their clients make use of installment or payment plans. So, you can afford such eye surgery trying some coordinating payments. Some offer alternatives like down payments or interest free payment. Contact the competent care center to develop a reasonable payment plan.
Today’s contact lenses have become a staple due to their versatility in the modern lifestyle. Technological advancement in modern eye care has ensured that almost anyone can wear contacts comfortably. Some people prefer lenses over eyeglasses while others claim that they are cumbersome and irritating. Selecting appropriate contacts is an important decision that may require the input of a professional.
Simply put, contacts are thin plastics worn over the eyes to correct particular vision problems. They offer a perfect solution to people who do not want to have surgery to correct their eye problems or wear cumbersome eyeglasses. Countless people use contacts as their corrective eyewear of choice, especially those who have an active lifestyle but want crisp vision without using a pair of glasses. Such people are incredibly grateful to don contacts and enjoy the freedom they offer!
Before deciding to order contacts, it is important to find out if you need to have them in the first place. Those who are interested in wearing contacts should first undergo a lens exam by an eye specialist. During the examination, your eye specialist will first seek to determine whether your eyes are healthy enough to wear contacts. Part of the exam will also involve eye measurements so that you are fitted with contacts that are comfortable and the right size for your eyes. The eye doctor also assists first time users on how to put in and take out lenses correctly and how to take care of them.
Contacts are divided into two broad types: rigid gas permeable and soft contacts. Soft contacts are usually made of water which is the reason why they are soft. They are extremely thin and comfortable to wear. Soft contacts are further subdivided into four basic groups: regular or spherical, contacts made for astigmatism, cosmetic or color, and contacts for presbyopia. Rigid gas permeable contacts are usually made of tough plastic which enables them to correct vision problems. These contacts are more durable, unlike their soft counterparts.
Generally, your choice of the type of contact will be based on several factors such as your expectations, refractive error and the length of time your eyes can tolerate the lenses without getting affected by them. Ordinarily, contacts can be worn comfortably either part time or full time depending on the special needs of the person. When selecting the most appropriate eyewear, you need to consider the following choices:
This type of eyewear is usually the least expensive. However, such lenses have to be removed and disinfected every night. They also need to be replaced regularly depending on brand and type. Replacement period varies from a fortnight to every three months.
Daily disposable lenses are meant for single use and are usually discarded once the day is done. The only downside to these lenses is that they end up being expensive since you need a new pair daily. However, they offer more convenience and decrease the risk of infection or irritation of the eye. Weekly or monthly disposables also require the same treatment once their time lapses. Disposable contacts are considered as the best option for people who have allergies and other complications that can be aggravated due to protein formation from tear film.
Extended wear contacts are designed to be worn overnight although they need to be removed regularly to be cleaned and disinfected. These lenses are frowned upon by most eye doctors since they reduce the amount of oxygen reaching the eyes thus making them more vulnerable to infection.
Multifocal lenses are for those who have a condition referred to as presbyopia. As we age, the lens of the eye progressively loses its ability to change, making it hard to focus on objects close to us, making it difficult to see. This is referred to as presbyopia. Bifocal or multifocal lenses usually correct such problems effectively.
Toric eyewear is ideal for correcting astigmatism, which results in blurred vision. On the other hand, colored lenses are often worn for cosmetic purposes since they change the color of the eyes dramatically.
Most people find wearing contact lenses quite a rewarding experience although some eventually stop using them due to discomfort or irritation. Usually, this discomfort is caused by environmental contaminants such as sprays, dust, and smoke. Use of antihistamine, alcohol, air travel or birth control pills usually causes eye irritation. Pinpointing the root of the irritation is usually one of the effective methods of eliminating such discomfort to guarantee the convenience of wearing contacts. Once the cause of the irritation is identified, adjustments can be made to reduce any trouble, and contacts can again be worn safely and comfortably.
Few can deny that the world as we know it is about to end with a crash.
Yet it is shocking to realize that the public today appears oblivious to the grave circumstances which face our planet. Or do people just pretend to be oblivious? It is becoming increasingly difficult, after all, to pretend that there is nothing wrong with the world as we know it. Yet public casualness about our own looming extinction is surely an intentionally cultivated facade.
Our uncaring attitude is clearly a self-induced denial of the blatant facts, which confront every human being in one way or another, each and every day. Among the most potent of these facts is that the human world is poised to take a tremendous fall…a literal crashing down of all the institutions of our day, of governments collapsing, economies falling apart, the failure of agriculture and the ecosystems upon which it depends, mass mental disorder and epidemic levels of cancer, wars for profit without end or sane reason, and a whole list of other related symptoms, OF A CENTRAL AND LARGELY UNNAMED CAUSE.
If ever there were a central source for all the worlds’ ills, and for the imminent demise of human beings everywhere, it can be summed up by two simple values…GREED and EGOTISM. These two words can further be summed up by one single world view, one single word that is the source of all our problems as a species, and that word, that paradigm, is CONSUMERISM.
Perhaps the reader imagines that such a statement is preposterous. How could consumerism, the very well spring from which flows all that is good in life (or so we have all been told by corporate media since the day we were born) possibly be the source of all our ills, you may ask? Isn’t consumerism the very means by which all that we need in life is produced, transported, manufactured and delivered? No it is not.
Consumerism is in fact a fanatical belief system based upon suicidal irrationality. It has next to nothing to do with practicality, efficiency, logic, truth or the sane accommodation of reality. It has everything to do with the stimulation of desire for unneeded goods and destructive industries, to BUY without logic, to CONSUME without care, to live without purpose, to speak without meaning and to follow without question. It is a set of values which promotes the imagined ego-boosting properties of products, without real concern for their practical value or the consequences of their manufacture. Consumerism is a death-cult of childish fixations upon material things, as a false replacement for love, clarity, sanity, spirituality and truth. It therefore caters to the basest, most destructive and ignoble of human traits, amplifying these above all other considerations in life and at the cost of all that is living.
1) Widespread corruption in government and boardrooms alike is considered, “business as usual”.
2) The degradation of medicine from the promotion of health, to preying upon the sick and the intentional cultivation of disease, for the sake of making money.
3) Wholesale destruction of the worlds’ ecosystems, global warming and the mass extinction of species unlike anything ever known in the natural history of this planet, all for the purpose of corporate earnings.
4) The promotion of war for profit in the name of democracy and liberation.
5) Extreme hypocrisy in religion in the speaking of righteousness, and in the doing of the exact opposite in daily life.
6) The treating of humans, plants and animals alike as nothing more than, “resources” which exist solely to be exploited, for the sake of immediate personal gratification and endless egotism.
7) Intentional shallowness and outright lies told daily by all mass media.
8) The mental decay of the public in imbecilic fascination with trivia and pointless drama, as reflected by the vast majority of television, “programming”.
9) The continuing degradation of agriculture and extreme cruelty in animal husbandry, pollution of bodies through toxic, unnatural practices, genetic engineering, cancer-causing pesticides and herbicides, soil depletion, erosion, desertification and lack of water, all in the production of inferior produce for the sake of corporate convenience.
10) Abuses of the public trust, pay-offs and scandals of every possible description on a daily basis, as the norm for politics and government leadership.
11) Pettiness between the leaders of nations, and the wholesale deterioration of international relations in endless wars, civil strife, phony posturing and pointless arrogance.
12) Education as a farce of conditioning and blind adherence to dogma and authority, not the freeing of the mind or the encouragement of questioning.
13) National, state, corporate and personal debt to the scale of tens of trillions of dollars, as a reflection of SPENDING carelessly and foolishly.
14) The widespread use of “mood stabilizers” among adults and even school children as young as even, implying mass mental illness and the wrongness of this way of life.
The list of world ills is endless, and it is part and parcel of the consumer paradigm to pretend that, “all is well” regardless. It is literally considered, “impolite” to speak of such matters in daily conversation.
Consumerism is about sacrificing your sanity, your health, good family relations, your children, your love, clarity, intelligence, naturalness and wisdom, for the sake of earning “the sacred cash” and accumulating a lot of supposedly impressive, expensive objects.
Consumerism is about looking down on the natural as inferior, as something to exploit and which has no meaning or value other than what personal objects of self-indulgence it can provide. It is a value system of abusing nature and the breaking of natural laws for the sake of profits regardless of the obvious consequences, in strip mining, clear cutting, genetic engineering, asphalting and toxicity, criminality in pollution and mass extinction, all in the name of Wall Street economy, (greed).
Consumerism is about being an addict who has so little MIND left, that their every act is one of whim, impulse and irrational waste. We are taught that the purpose of life is the acquisition of brand names that supposedly enhance our, “prestige” in the eyes of an admiring public. But the actual fact is, that the consumer is a silly dupe whose sanity hangs on a thread, and whose life is the misery of an endless drudge-work, wage slave. Thus, the drudge is ever in debt in order to pay for their long list of addictions to “things” which the consumer world has them believing they “must have” to be, “happy” and “successful”. In order to pay this debt they work away their entire adult lives in servitude to plastic, chrome-plated trinkets.
At the end of that exercise in self destruction where health is replaced by disease, cancer and mental psychosis, the “worthy member of society” is allowed to “rest” and “play” while taking half a dozen medications daily just to stay alive, only to end up babbling in senility and wearing an adult diaper.
Although it is popular to treat all of the above as “different” problems that demand separate measures, they are by no means separate. They ALL, each and every one of them, spring from the very same source, and are founded upon the very same set of wrong values. The values of greed and egotism which literally make consumerism what it is today, represent a phony-baloney paradigm of waste, corruption and fraudulence, that can only end in one result…the destruction of life and all that is good, as well as the extinction of the human race. “Consumerism” is the polite, politically correct name for the contamination of the human spirit by the filth of suicidal, infantile self-indulgence. It is a “faith” in the absurd proposition that things=fulfillment which neither satisfies, nor produces anything of real value to the world. Instead, it is quickly parasitizing the globe and everything upon it, just as a cancer eats away at its’ host body, demanding all and giving nothing but landfills, deserts, war zones, failed banks and broken lives. It is a world view which teaches that there is literally NOTHING as important in life as money and what it can buy for the sake of, “looking good” to a numbed, dumbed-down public of wage slave automatons. Consumerism is hollow…it is a fancy-looking box with elaborate wrappings, containing nothing inside but distractions from all the self-induced pain and fear of the world. It is nothing but silly, juvenile imagery, a con game dressed up to look like something admirable, like a suit and tie hung on the manicured ass of a donkey.
Consumerism says, “Buy this fancy-looking overpriced car or house and spend the next 20-30 years of your life paying them off, so that you can look like a, “success” to your neighbors. Your neighbors are in turn playing the same absurd game, as dictated by what they see every day on, “the tube”. Thus, civility dies, rational conversation turns to petty posturing, community becomes a police state of locked gates, no trespassing signs, manicured lawns, legal battles and fences to “protect” each little would-be emperor and their host of “things”, from competing emperors and “have-nothing trash”. By the same token, and through the same empty, soulless state of greed and entropic egotism, goodwill among nations becomes the meaningless posturing of world leaders through the gibberish of political slogans, and the policy of “furthering their national interests” at the cost of millions of lives, pointless suffering and entire regions of the earth being stripped bare. Nothing in the consumer world is sacred except image, (egotism) and the way to, “sell your image” to others, is supposedly through, “things” which are themselves, “images”… ones that supposedly confer, “worth” in the eyes of the deaf, dumb and blind.
The consumer world, in short, is a social landscape painted by corporate con artists, and made reality by the willing. Statistical knowledge of human reactions has revealed more about what NOTTO SAY about a product or service, than what its’ actual practical value may be. To pull off their “sale” of largely bogus and unneeded goods, (read SCAM) it is in the best interest of the corporate world and the mass media which caters to it, to keep the public in a perpetual state of ignorance and sheer stupidity. The “logic” of this practice is simple…if you’re a con artist offering something whose real and practical worth is nowhere near the price you’re asking, then you must “cultivate” your market of potential buyers (dupes) by making sure they are exposed to the full range of mind-destroying practices of education, advertising and social conditioning known to the modern science of propaganda. In so doing the level of manifest intelligence of the public has become so degraded, that not only will the average person fall for literally ANYTHING that is presented with the appropriate song and dance, they have been conditioned to actually be hostile to questioning of any kind.