Abandonment and Isolation

Abandonment and IsolationThe 1960s was a time when there was an upheaval of people’s concept of family life. It was a time when baby boomers asserted their authority and challenged prevailing norms. When the pill was introduced, family values declined and people started having multiple partners. People started to move out from their homes and strike out on their own at an earlier age. Interest in travel and indulging one’s senses became a thing. There was a clamor to pursue higher education. Even how parents disciplined their children changed. 

Clearly, the 1960s was a time that brought forth many wonderful changes to society. People achieved health and prosperity. They enjoyed freedom of speech and expression and were able to go places. The arts flourished, particularly music. It was a period of fun and excitement.

 However, not everything about the ‘60s was great. Traditional family suffered significantly. Baby boomers produced the Generation X-ers, a generation that’s generally considered abandoned and fatherless. 

Generation X-ers are inquisitive, curious, and straightforward. They ask questions and expect answers. They are looking for the fathers who abandoned them. They seek the truth and are never satisfied with vague answers and lame excuses.

Single parent homes are caused by a various reasons. When couples break up, the child is left to deal with the void, especially if one of the parents is completely out of the picture. In most cases, the mother is hostile towards the father and because of this, the father is not in any way involved in their offspring’s childhood memories.

Ideally, both parents should agree to forget about their differences and reconnect for the sake of the child but if that’s not possible, there should be communication. But if all forms of contact is impossible, then the mother or surviving parent should at least take time to talk to the child and tell him about his or her father. Even the most mundane things about him will help in creating important childhood memories such as his hobbies, interests, and his defining characteristics. If there are photographs of him, that would even be better. It is imperative that the child knows who he is to fill the void.

Not having a connection with a parent can hamper a child’s development, and often results to nagging feelings of neglect and abandonment. This can lead to emotional problems as the child matures. Unresolved abandonment issues often results to debilitating emotional and psychological distress.

Parents, too, have a longing to reconnect with a child they abandoned. They want to know their child but honestly don’t know what to say. Yes, it would be very difficult to have a conversation with someone you put on hold for a very long time.

So, if this page resonates with you, it is time to do something about your dilemma. You only have to make the decision. Reconnect with the person or people you had a falling out with and speak from the bottom of your heart. Tell them you are sorry, that you love them, and they matter to you. Make the effort and you will be rewarded greatly after. If you don’t have the courage to say that in person, then send  a heartfelt letter.